Perfecting Your Apology

Tuesday, May 02, 2017

Some Do's and Don'ts of perfecting your apology

DO admit you're responsible for your own words and actions. 
If anyone gets hurt, it's up to you to take responsibility. By the way, hurting anyone physically or using name calling isn't ever okay. That's abuse.

DO try to repair the damage done
Sometimes after an argument, people need time to cool off. If that's what it takes for the other person to feel better, give them time. Once those damaging words or actions are out there, you can't take them back. Also, ask what you can do to make it better.

Do be humble
Ask for forgiveness. You've may have said some things in the heat of the moment. Be humble, we're all human. Admit that you made a mistake and own up to it.

DON'T tack on excuses
Saying "I'm sorry but I was..." isn't only rude, it's excusing yourself from your actions.

DON'T be insincere about your apology
Whenever I hear people say "sorry you're mad", I cringe inside. It's not only condescending, it's insincere.

DON'T always expect the other to apologize
This goes along with the idea of would you rather be right in an argument, or would you rather compromise? Also, some people may not be able to apologize right away. They may need time to heal.

Any other suggestions to perfecting your apology?

Simply Yours,

A. Leah