Things I Learned In My Twenties

Saturday, September 15, 2018

As I mentioned in my last post, I recently turned 30. I thought I'd share some things that I learned and did in my twenties. I don't believe that we have to have it together by a certain age, it's just not possible!

I learned that my time is important.
I'm naturally one to want to help others, but for such a long time, I would let that want to help others override my need to take care of myself. I learned the hard way that although it's nice to help others, it's not sustainable to give everyone all of your energy and to leave none for yourself.

I stopped wasting time on lemon friends.
A lemon friend is someone who keeps squeezing you and takes all of your energy and time in a negative way, without giving anything back to you. So, much like a squeezed lemon, you're thrown out when you can't give anything more to the person. I want friends that are here for the long haul, not a friend who just takes from me.

I started complimenting people more.
Sounds silly, but if I like what someone is wearing, or if I think the person looks fabulous, I would tell them! For so long, I was afraid to give random strangers compliments because I might sound weird. I got over that quickly once I saw the smile on their face and their confidence brighten. I also like to say "you are beautiful", instead of "you look beautiful", since a person is much more than their looks.

I started saying "I love you" more
I say "I love you" to my friends and family constantly. I do have love for them and I want them to know how much I appreciate them.

I learned to be more open
This was the hardest lesson for me to learn.
For most of my life, I've been the one that others have gone to for help regarding their problems (
I'm definitely in the right profession!). However, because of that, I wouldn't talk about my own issues or things that I needed help with. I became so used to being the support, I didn't want to be the one who needed help. I wanted to be seen as strong. I've learned that sometimes strength is asking for help and not keeping it to yourself. I still struggle with this, but I've gotten a lot better.

Simply Yours,